One moment there, the next moment gone...???
Tuesday morning I went for an early walk taking sunny flowery pictures (see previous post). In the evening, I got a phone call that my mum was being brought into hospital. A couple of hours later, she was dead! No time to say good-bye... I'm still finding it hard to take in.
My brother drove 300 kms in the middle of the night to our dad (who is not at all well either). None of us got more than perhaps 1 h sleep that night. Yesterday was a "chaotic blur" of phone calls and waiting for people to call back. My own blood pressure through the roof. Last night I slept, though; and woke up feeling a bit better. Today I've met with my dad and my brother; and several more phonecalls, including preliminary contact with the undertaker, whom I'll be meeting on Monday.
If I don't get round to much posting (or visiting other blogs) in the next few days or weeks, you know why. On the other hand, I might still find it a relief to write occasionally, if I feel physically up to it. Remains to be seen which phases I'll be going through, and in which order...
16 comments:
Oh my friend, I'm so sorry to hear this. Please know that my thoughts are with you and your family in this time of sorrow. Sometimes it makes no sense and is so hard to believe. She is now in a much better place. She will always be with you forever and your memories of her will help you make it through the days, weeks, months and years ahead. Be strong and know how that the pain, however great, will ease over time...the memories never leave. Aloha
I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.
Hello DT: My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so sorry about your mother. That is a shock and a loss. Stay strong.
I saw your comment at Raven's
I am sorry for your loss and I wish for you peace and strength as you go through the days ahead
I send gentle hugs
Dawn Treader,
I am really sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 1999. That following year was a constant reminder of her memory and the wonderful times we had together while I was growing up. So many trigger points during the year...holidays etc...But I can tell you that time will heal your feeling of loss. Not that you will forget her but the shock and pain you fell right now will fade with time. Our prayers are with you and your family during this time of grief.
Dan
I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know what's harder, when we are prepared for it or when it is a shock like this. I think it comes out the same in the end. It's just difficult. Losing a mother is a profound life and earth change. When we lose our mother - who has been part of our world before we even entered it - we are living in a different universe. But anyway, I will hold you and your father and brother in my prayers. In some ways for me the deeper grief came after all the running around and when I was no longer busy taking care of things and making plans, when life started to move back to "normal" and I would be reminded by some thought that normal was different now.
Anyway, sorry to be rambling on. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss.
God Bless you sweet lady as the bible says in the wink of an eye and they will be gone. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Monica I haven't been checking blogs lately due to my heavy load. I was so sorry to read about your Mother. Not being able to say goodbye would have been hard. Perhaps through God you could ask him to say goodbye for you. I am here through e-mail if you need to talk.
Big warm hugs coming across the ocean from Australia.
Hi Dawn, I came from Thom's blog to send you my heartfelt sympathy and deepest condolences.
Loosing your mother must be the hardest thing. I saw this at Thom's and wanted to offer you my most sincere condolances. Peace.
Sorry on the loss of your Mum, I lost my Mum in 1989, and it was one of the hardest things I had to go through. Thom asked us to stop by and offer our condolences, when things get better for you, stop by the blog for a visit. It may give you a laugh and let you think about other things.
Grief is like the wind. It is strong at first, like a wind storm, and never out of our minds. But soon it comes in gusts with periods of calm in between. Then it is like a breeze that one knows is there, but hardly notices except when one catches a glimpse of an old photo or something happens to remind us of the life that was lost. It is hard now and the pain never quite goes away, but eventually it will ease to a gentle twinge.
Please accept my sympathy. (I'm here from Raven's Wordzzle)
You have my sympathy. I still remember the call I got when my mother died so I know something of what your going through and how hectic the time will be. I will pray for you. Your mom moves now toward the greater Narnia.
My sincere condolences on the loss of your mother.
I lost my Mom in 2005 and though we were not as close as my Father and I were, it changed my life.
Here's a link to something I wrote about her and Mom's in general on Mother's Day. Perhaps it will help you connect with fond memories of your Mom.
http://mrrichardsbloggerhood.blogspot.com/2009/05/sunday-funnies-happy-mothers-day.html
Rich
I'm so sorry, my deepest condolences to you and your family.
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